When my husband and I got married, we made a promise to each other to always communicate openly and avoid bitterness in our relationship. We believe that bitter people hurt others, and this has been the foundation of our strong and supportive marriage. It has helped us navigate many challenges and obstacles along the way.
My husband had already been involved in extreme sports, having competed in boxing for ten years when we got married. I could understand his passion for boxing, having been a competitive athlete myself, but I never thought he would take up motorcycle riding.
It was a little surprising to me when my husband started researching motorcycles and became increasingly interested in them. As someone who knew nothing about riding, the thought of him on a motorbike made me nervous. However, I trusted him to make responsible decisions and always communicate with me about his plans.
When he purchased his first motorcycle, he asked me if it was okay with me and I said yes because I wanted him to enjoy his life and pursue his passions. He was always respectful and safe, and I could see how much joy riding brought him. I started to support him more and more, even though I still had moments of worry and concern.
One of the biggest challenges I faced was being concerned about how much time he would spend away from home. I worried about what would happen if we had kids or if he would leave me alone during busy weekends at our business. I was always overthinking. But God reminded me that my husband loves me and wants to be with me always. He is my best friend and I am his. I could see how much he values our time together.
To cope with my worry and anxiety, I decided to focus on my own passion for singing. I started taking lessons and practicing regularly, which helped me feel more fulfilled and balanced in my life.
Whenever my husband would do the things he likes to do, I would sing. This was my way of transferring my focus to something that was fulfilling for me and good for my mental health.
Some people may say, "It's easy for you to say since you don't have kids yet!" But for me, it doesn't matter. I will not let bitterness get in our marriage. I will protect both our hearts and minds. We will continue to strive for oneness in Christ Jesus no matter the situation, as long as what we do brings glory to God.
I saw how much joy it brought him, and I wanted to be a part of that joy. I also believe that if God gave him this desire, God will protect and guide him always. All I can do is pray for him every day.
In the end, I learned that supporting each other's passions is an essential part of a healthy and happy marriage. We don't have to share every interest or hobby, but we should always try to understand and support each other's dreams and goals. It's not always easy, but with open communication, trust, and a willingness to try new things, we can create a strong and fulfilling partnership.
Note: Photos are not mine
Photo Credits to MoTourista and Sugbuanon 2.0
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